Who I Really Am

What I like to say is that I’m a strong, healthy father. What I feel I am, though, is someone who can’t stick to a plan long enough to make a difference. I feel like a failure, sometimes I feel like an addict. I feel like a disappointment to my family.

I’m terrified that my kids will grow up struggling with their weight. I think it makes me scared because I haven’t yet figured out how to stop struggling with mine, so I don’t feel I can show them the right way. I don’t want that life for them. I want it to be better, and I’m afraid I can’t give them better.

Here’s what I know, though. Here are the facts. My wife loves me unconditionally. Sometimes she doesn’t like my decisions, but she loves me for me, and she tells me I’m handsome all the time. My daughter loves me unconditionally. She thinks I’m the best daddy. She’s my best girl. My son lights up when I talk to him.

I mean the world to my family.

My family
I do try my hardest, most of the time, to do things right. When I’m not trying my hardest is usually when I’m just fatigued, so maybe even then I’m still trying my hardest.

I know everything I need to know in order to become the strong, healthy example I want for my kids. The fact is most of the time, I show them that example even if I feel like I don’t.

I’m no longer going to say I can’t stick to something. I’m no longer going to call myself a disappointment. Some of the things I do may be disappointing, but that’s not my character, only an action I may take.

My character is a man who works hard, loves his family, and does everything he can to make their lives better. Sometimes it’s easier to do than other times, but that is who I am.

So what about you? Take a few minutes to reflect on some of the ways in which you speak to yourself, and then take some time to figure out the facts about reality and see how that changes your perspective. If you’re free to, please share in the comments or in our Facebook group!

Science, Stress Relief and Meditation


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Cauliflower Salad & AltShift Book Review

#AltShift recipe: Cauliflower Salad on FindingMyFitness.com

or Why Your Cheat Day Is No Longer Your Best Friend Have you ever taken your cheat day while on 4 Hour Body, and then afterwards you wish you hadn’t gone so crazy? Do you get a little depressed about the jump in the scale afterwards, and then feel like you’re losing ground but you […]

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Weight Loss Mistakes Even Smart People Make

Weight Loss Mistakes Even Smart People Make on FindingMyFitness.com

The key to getting lean is being disciplined and consistent. The way to do this is by identifying major reasons why people quit in the first place.

Let’s go over this list and see if you can identify with any of them:

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When Does A Weight Goal Become Less Important Than Progress?

When Does A Weight Goal Become Less Important Than Progress? (FindingMyFitness.com)

Have you ever felt guilty for not reaching a goal you set for yourself while ignoring the great progress you’d already made?

I usually love the show Extreme Weight Loss with Chris (and now Heidi Powell). I like the show because it’s not a competition. It’s purely him helping someone reach some really monstrous goals in a year. Sure, it’s unrealistic for most of us to get those results, because unlike the folks on the show, we can’t quit our jobs and basically live on a training facility.

A few weeks ago, I was really disappointed with the show. A woman made some incredible progress in each of her three phases, but she didn’t meet any of her goals. Keep in mind that her goals were like 30 lbs a month for three months, and then 10 lbs a month for three months. Some really high-order stuff going on here.

Heidi knew it was because of her food, and when she pressed, the woman confessed that she didn’t think it was really a big deal to add a half an avocado here and there to her chicken.

I almost stopped watching the show.

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