Who I Really Am

What I like to say is that I’m a strong, healthy father. What I feel I am, though, is someone who can’t stick to a plan long enough to make a difference. I feel like a failure, sometimes I feel like an addict. I feel like a disappointment to my family.

I’m terrified that my kids will grow up struggling with their weight. I think it makes me scared because I haven’t yet figured out how to stop struggling with mine, so I don’t feel I can show them the right way. I don’t want that life for them. I want it to be better, and I’m afraid I can’t give them better.

Here’s what I know, though. Here are the facts. My wife loves me unconditionally. Sometimes she doesn’t like my decisions, but she loves me for me, and she tells me I’m handsome all the time. My daughter loves me unconditionally. She thinks I’m the best daddy. She’s my best girl. My son lights up when I talk to him.

I mean the world to my family.

My family
I do try my hardest, most of the time, to do things right. When I’m not trying my hardest is usually when I’m just fatigued, so maybe even then I’m still trying my hardest.

I know everything I need to know in order to become the strong, healthy example I want for my kids. The fact is most of the time, I show them that example even if I feel like I don’t.

I’m no longer going to say I can’t stick to something. I’m no longer going to call myself a disappointment. Some of the things I do may be disappointing, but that’s not my character, only an action I may take.

My character is a man who works hard, loves his family, and does everything he can to make their lives better. Sometimes it’s easier to do than other times, but that is who I am.

So what about you? Take a few minutes to reflect on some of the ways in which you speak to yourself, and then take some time to figure out the facts about reality and see how that changes your perspective. If you’re free to, please share in the comments or in our Facebook group!

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  1. Hey Jason,

    Thanks for keeping it real and sharing your struggles. I am sure we can all relate in one way or another.

    I used to look in the mirror and hated what I saw. Not only physically but on a personal level too. Alcohol abuse was starting to affect my relationships and my diet was poor enough to the point it made me feel like crap.

    That was a little over one year ago. I started making changes and slowly transformed myself. The discipline that fitness has taught me has carried over into other areas of my life too.

    I am glad family is important to you. As I write this, my daughter is 11 weeks old and whenever she wakes up and I go see her she always greets me with a big smile. That alone, is what makes life worth living.

    Thanks again for the post!

  2. You can only be a failure when you stop working. I’ve watched this site for awhile now. Keeping it going has been a great act of discipline. Take pride in that.
    We teach our kids to continually try and be better. That the work never stops, and you shouldn’t want it to. There is no defined end goal, the only goal is to keep pushing.

    Keep pushing, brother.

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